Frequently Asked Questions

If you are new to BDSM, any high protocol Mistress will expect you to take time and effort to educate yourself. The key is respect and deference. In your communications, you must show a higher degree of formality as if you are emailing your company CEO or a big name person you want to impress. 

For more information about how to respectfully approach a Mistress, read MaDomme's writing on the subject.

It goes without saying that one-liners, unsolicited lewd photos, requests for activities that I have listed as limits, and disrespect will be a waste of your time, will blacklist you, and do not merit a response.

A sub who is interested in serving may apply via a formal written email through the Contact form on this website. Think job interview cover letter formal. In this letter, you will include the following: 

• An introductory paragraph stating your desire to apply to serve
• A bit about yourself, your location, and a few vanilla interests 
• your level of experience in D/s and your core kinks & fetishes
• your goals as a submissive
• Why you desire to serve MaDomme specifically
• What of value do you have to contribute to MaDomme to respect and show appreciation for the significant investment She makes in training a sub?

MaDomme is pronounced “Muh-DOM,” a bit like a French-accented "Madam."

My name, MaDomme, serves as its own honorific. I also enjoy being addressed as Mistress, Goddess, and possibly other honorifics so long as they elicit the responses I desire from you. Variety is the spice of life. 

Many times a certain honorific will "land" deeply with a sub, and I grow very fond of them using that specific honorific. This is a process that often organically unfolds over the course of repeated sessions and growing familiarity with One another.

100%! What happens in our sessions stays in our sessions, barring any extreme safety issues, just like seeing a therapist. 

I am sensitive to and outraged by the fact that sometimes subs are blackmailed by unscrupulous posers. I hold My subs' personal information highly confidential and commend the courage and vulnerability it takes for subs to share it. I would never "out" you. The thought of breaking someone's trust like that makes Me physically ill.

Absolutely! MaDomme can train a sub of any skill level with ease. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't do your homework and know how to approach respectfully and embrace an appropriately submissive mindset. Read more about these things in MaDomme's article on How to Respectfully Approach a Mistress.

Upon booking, you will receive specific instructions from Me on how to prepare for your session. In addition to these instructions, and for your own growth, read the following words of wisdom by Simone Justice to help you prepare for your initial session:

https://www.simonejustice.com/single-post/behavior-with-a-dominant

Please allow one week for a response before further inquiring about your application. MaDomme takes time to review applications, has frequent travel and business engagements, and sometimes it takes a while to respond to a continual barrage of applicants.

MaDomme is highly selective and has a thorough vetting process. She does not accommodate same-day requests for bookings from new potential subs. Good things come to those who wait patiently and respectfully. Due to the non-transactional nature of the relationship, the process may take significant time to unfold.

If you'd like to make Me salivate and ponder eating you whole, come dressed as a lumberjack (minus the sharp objects!): flannel & tasteful rugged leather boots (think slim brown ankle high Doc Martens) drive Me wild in the best way possible, and if you have a tastefully trimmed beard and/or a chiseled set of biceps and abs, all bets are off! Love Me a good, rustic mountain man (or woman or NB!) sub. The mountains, backpacking, and the great outdoors drive Me to a near-feral state.

Pronouns such as She and Her as well as other words relating to Dominatrices have been capitalized, and those relating to subs are in lowercase, in accordance with the punctuation used in formal communications within the more traditional D/s community. While this style is not completely universal among all Dominatrices, it is well-known in MaDomme's tradition and community. Read more about it in MaDomme's article on How to Respectfully Approach a Mistress.